Valentine’s Day can be fun for some—in particular, those in committed, romantic relationships. Frankly, though, it can be pretty brutal for others, including those who have recently gone through divorces or break-ups, or who simply feel isolated or alone.
There’s another group that tends to have a difficult time on Valentine’s Day, and does not receive as much consideration. This group is recovering addicts. When you are in addiction recovery, Valentine’s Day can seem like an endless litany of reminders of past relationships and previous mistakes. Every heart-shaped cookie or pink-and-red card can sting.
The good news is there are steps you can take to make the day lighter and more enjoyable for the people you know who are in recovery. Start by giving them one of these gifts.
The gift of decadence: Those in recovery may still be struggling with what they have given up—the pleasures they once received from alcohol or drugs. You can give them something to really treat themselves with, something on which to splurge. Consider a big box of their favorite candy, or a gift card to their favorite restaurant.
The gift of connection: Those in recovery can sometimes feel isolated and alone, which is especially brutal on Valentine’s Day. Why not call them or ask to get together just to talk and to connect? Give them your undivided attention. Let them know they’re not alone.
The gift of pampering: Give the person a chance to really treat themselves—maybe inviting them to something like a spa day or simply to get a massage.
The gift of time: Spend the whole day with your friend or loved one. At the very least, carve out some time to devote to them fully. Remind them of their worth, and of your friendship.
The gift of forgiveness: Are these still unresolved feelings of tension? There is no better time to offer your forgiveness. Give your friend or loved one the first of a guilt-free Valentine’s Day!
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