The Right Kind of Friends

Last Updated: Sep 20th 2019

Reviewed by Brittany Polansky, MSW, LCSW

Forming a new and healthier life in recovery can be scary,  but it doesn’t mean we have to abandon who we are. We can just connect with other aspects of ourselves that we’ve never had the chance to explore. Finding friends who will support you in this is essential. So is letting go of friends who don’t.


Vignette One

When I quit drinking there was a challenge I never expected: all my friends drank. So we’d go out and hang out, and of course we’d end up in a bar. I’d order a soda and they’d have their beers. Then something weird happened: we had nothing to talk about. I’d been friends with some of these people for many years, and all at once we had nothing in common. So what happened next? I broke down and ordered a drink. They all knew I’d quit drinking and no one even attempted to stop me in an attempt to support my sobriety. It was suddenly back to old times, laughing and joking around with them, but inside I felt like a failure.


Vignette Two

When I quit drinking I was prepared. I knew what had happened before, and I wasn’t going to let it happen again. My friendships were important to me, but so was sobriety. I’d recently met several people who didn’t drink and I intended to take full advantage of that. I started hanging out with the nondrinkers. It was weird at first because I realize just how much of my life had been based around the bar scene. It was hard for me, because I realized that I’d kind of forgotten how to have fun in other ways, but I had people to help me through it. With these new friends I’d go out hiking, I missed playing music in the bar but I started playing in the park. We still had parties, but they were more focused around activities than drinks.

Some friends saw what I was doing and were very supportive. I told them that I needed to distance myself from that lifestyle, not them in particular. Other people couldn’t understand me at all, and I let them fade out of my life. There was definitely a readjustment, but I found my mood was more stable, and I was getting into much better shape from all the outdoors activities! It was great. I did feel some loss, but that didn’t compare to my feelings of acceptance and progress.

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Reviewed for Medical & Clinical Accuracy by Brittany Polansky, MSW, LCSW

Brittany has been working in behavioral health since 2012 and is the Assistant Clinical Director at our facility. She is an LCSW and holds a master’s degree in social work. She has great experience with chemical dependency and co-occurring mental health diagnoses as well as various therapeutic techniques. Brittany is passionate about treating all clients with dignity and respect, and providing a safe environment where clients can begin their healing journey in recovery.