Last Updated: Sep 21st 2020

Reviewed by Brittany Polansky, MSW, LCSW


Many of us tend to associate the month of February with its most major holiday—Valentine’s Day. As such, the month seems like it’s all about our relationships with other people—romantic relationships and otherwise.

There’s nothing wrong with that, of course—so long as it doesn’t cause you to neglect the relationship you have with yourself. Because that relationship is critically important, in particular for those in recovery. Making time to care for yourself—to show some self-love—is vital to the recovery process.

So make this the month you reconnect with that important, central relationship in your life. You can still think about others, of course, but be especially intentional about taking care of yourself, and getting in some quality me time.

Some suggestions for doing so:

  • Actually schedule some time for yourself. Don’t just hope that it happens. Put it on your calendar. Work it into your schedule. Make an appointment with yourself, to recharge your batteries and regain your bearings.
  • Go to your happy place. Find an avenue or environment where you can be alone and really enjoy quality time—a hiking trail, a park, a marina, a library, or even a store, coffee shop, or the movie theater.
  • Invest in some activities that nurture self-love. Pamper yourself with a foot rub. Go get a massage. Cook a healthy meal for yourself. Meditate. Practice yoga. Go for a leisurely walk.
  • Disconnect with others to reconnect with yourself. Not permanently—but just for an hour or perhaps an afternoon. Put your phone away. Shut down your laptop. Leave calls and social media for another time.
  • Affirm yourself. As you spend time with yourself, take a minute to list the things you’re grateful for; the things you like about yourself; the reason you’re worthy of love.

Make this the month of self-love; make this a FebYOUary you’ll always remember.

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Reviewed for Medical & Clinical Accuracy by Brittany Polansky, MSW, LCSW

Brittany has been working in behavioral health since 2012 and is the Assistant Clinical Director at our facility. She is an LCSW and holds a master’s degree in social work. She has great experience with chemical dependency and co-occurring mental health diagnoses as well as various therapeutic techniques. Brittany is passionate about treating all clients with dignity and respect, and providing a safe environment where clients can begin their healing journey in recovery.